What does it mean to advocate differently? This bonus episode of the Wednesdays With Watson podcast is an important conversation with Audrey Mabrey Prosper, domestic violence survivor and super advocate. Her message may not sit well with some, but if we are going to affect change, we must change the narrative. These days, Audrey is advocating differently, join her fight! You can contact Audrey, and and join our fight to change the narrative here.

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TRIGGER Warning–Audrey’s story is at the beginning of the episode, pick. up at 2:53.

Opening clip property of Dr. Phil McGraw, and the emmy-nominated syndicated Dr. Phil Show, owned by the Oprah Winfrey Network. I do not own the rights to this clip listed in the public domain.

(0:00) “He will never take away my future, my happiness, my character, you wanted the beauty? Take it, you can have it”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

(6:36) “I truly believe that I will find love again” Audrey Mabrey Prosper

Survivor: “To surpass with great change, thoughts and tenacity”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

(8:57) Question: “Can you. tell me what you mean by advocating differently?”
“when we would talk about advocating…a lot of times we were expressing frustration…in 11 years the number of people being impacted by domestic violence has not declined…you start to wonder, what do we need to be doing differently..” Audrey Mabrey Prosper

“There are 3 phases to domestic violence: prevention, intervention and restoration”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

(11:20) “We have created a narrative there is a victim and a villain there is a narrative and we aren’t going to change it…advocating differently means changing the narrative…it is not a battle of good versus evil…”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

(13:20) “her ex that abused her was going to court had abused another person and I thought wow, all the work we have done to break our silence did not change him as he abused somebody else”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

Scripture
Joel 2:25

Domestic violence statistics

(16:02) Question: “What is your message to victims, survivors and those who love us?”

(19:19) Question: “Why don’t we ask victims, ‘why don’t you just leave?'”
(20:19) “if you stay you could die, if you leave you could die”–Audrey. Mabrey Prosper

The importance of a plan when leaving.

(21:00) The importance of co-parenting with abuser.

(22:00) The importance of community, Audrey’s shout out to the entire Tampa Bay Community.

(26:08) Question: Is counseling part of your story?
“It was incredible for me to have that safe space…I didn’t want to worry my friends and family so I really needed that safe space of counseling”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

(27:17) “I want survivor to be able to choose the healing services they need”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

(28:53) Question “Is Jesus the star of your story like he is mine?”

(30:15) “It is amazing what God can do if we let Him”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

(31:00) “I prayed for Him for 18 months….”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

Christopher Haney’s “victim impact statement”

“We get to choose how we move forward”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper

Investigation ID episode

(37:50) If we want healthy fruits, we have to look at the roots”
“Stay curious and look at the roots”–Audrey Mabrey Prosper