Season 3 Episode 1 Trauma, Loss & The Enneagram: Becky Wade, Type 1-Navigating The Inner Critic
Welcome to season 3 of the Wednesdays With Watson podcast!
We are spending the first half of this season, studying how God made us and then using that information to help us process and understand trauma. Were you always who you are or did your trauma make you who you are?
First up, and representing the enneagram 1’s out there is Christy Award Winning Author, Becky Wade. Becky is kind, authentic, delightful, and helps us understand the inner critic of the enneagram one. She articulately explains how she has been able to leverage the inner critic for good and what she does when the inner critic begins its indictment–especially during times of loss, and uncertainty.
Over View Of Enneagram 1:
Core Fear: Being wrong, bad, immoral or corrupt.
Core Longing: To Hear (and believe) “yo are good”.
While the enneagram is JUST a tool, it can be effective when coupled with the gospel. Typically, this enneagram type will often cave to the indictment of their strong, and often loud inner critic. These types need to know that they are good, that they could never work or perform themselves into a good standing with God because that happened with the completed work of Jesus.
So. We can honesty say to all enneagram 1’s–You are GOOD, because He made you that way, though a hefty price was paid.
But what does this have to do when trauma anyway? If we can understand why we behave the way we do (often running from our core fears) then we can begin to live in the tension that is healing–temporarily horrible, but eternally worth it. When this type experiences trauma and loss, they are likely blaming themselves and finding a way to make it right. This is exhausting and unfruitful.
Wade beautifully describes recent opportunities to lean into the pain of loss, and also leaning on her community to help her quiet that inner critic that served to only destroy all that is right and good.
Wade agrees that our identity is in Christ, and also believes that 1 Peter 2:9 is a precious promise. When asked when she was the most content:
“When I remember that I am fully approved, fully forgiven, fully accepted and fully loved. God supplies identity that maters.”
This is a message for all of us, but especially for enneagram 1 types as you learn to successfully navigate the inner critic in you. Learn to leverage it as you continue your quest from healing and living the life that you should not be able to live.
Wade’s overall message to you: You are not alone. She asks others to give enneagram type ones a safe place to be wrong, yet forgiven. She encourages us to help the the enneagram 1 know that while they may be often right, they aren’t always right. 🙂 Wade highlights the importance of that message coming from a gentle and kind voice.
So, what is the superpower of the type 1 anyway? It is,I believe, your desire to be right and a good upstanding citizen. But, I also think your superpower is flipping the switch and seeing the “rightness” is dropping things that don’t belong to you like guilt and shame.
Type 1’s I hope today is the day you stop listening to the lies and remember that no matter what, you stand righteous before an almighty God, once you have surrendered to Him. Your trauma or loss was not your fault, you will continue to blame yourself, and when you do, come back here–we will remind you how much you matter!
I Peter 2:9
Podcast Host; Amy Watson & Crissy Loughridge
Guest: Becky Wade
Producer: Amy Highland